Saturday, October 19, 2013

The Conversations in Our Heads

Have you noticed that while you are going about your business you have these imagined conversations going on in your mind? Sometimes it is you having a conversation with you, perhaps criticizing yourself for how you handled something, or a commentary on the activity you are doing, or maybe a discussion you recently had with a coworker. But many of the imagined conversations typically involve irritation, annoyance, or anger towards others and imagining what you would say or should say to these individuals. I find that the majority, if not all, of these imagined conversations never occur and are mostly distracting and counterproductive. When you decide that such “in-house” mental discussions are of no benefit to the well-being of you or others, label them mentally as “distraction” and come back to your present focus. Of course, this takes practice, but you can anticipate that your mindfulness will sharpen over time with this technique.